Boyfriend #2?

Pleasure P sings "Ladies, if you got a man and a buddy on the side say Yeah. If you be making plans 'cause he ain't hitting it right say Yeah."


Uh...no.


Don't get me wrong. Love the song. Love it! When the kids (and the husband...lol) aren't in the car, I turn up the volume and sing at the top of my lungs "Yeah!"


Now, back to the point at hand...having a boyfriend #2 is problematic and just generally not a good look. Ladies have that man on the side usually to satisfy sexual, emotion, or financial needs that boyfriend #1 can't fulfill, right? For the sake of staying on subject, in Mr. P's song he refers to the untapped sexual desires being fulfilled by said boyfriend #2.


Here is why I find it problematic:

• Boyfriend #2, the jumpoff. Yes, he rocks that thang just like you need it rocked, but chances are very high that you are not the only thang he's rocking. STD's are not now nor have they ever been cute. Use condoms every time? Ok...but what about tongue kissing (both sets of lips...) Now there's no boyfriend #2 worth his salt if he isn't kissing both sets of lips. (Oooooo on the TLC tip!)




• There's a high chance the boyfriend #2 will never be boyfriend #1. If boyfriend #1 finds out about boyfriend #2 and leaves you, don't think you're going to run into the arms of boyfriend #2 to replace the one you just lost. Remember -- you're the slut that betrayed your boyfriend's trust just to get a nut. He doesn't want you boo. Not like that.

So I say, if boyfriend #1 ain't hitting it right to the point where you feel like you have to let someone else hit it right, then MOVE ON. You may say that boyfriend #1 has many good qualities so that's why you keep him around. Stable, good head on his shoulders, treats you nice, etc, blah, blah, blah. But here's the thing, love is an unconditional emotion. There's no I love him but....... You don't love him, move on. I mean, that's what boyfriends are for right? Good times, good sex, a best friend and all that rolled into one? Sex sucks, move on. (Just quickly, on the other hand if all he can do is hit it right and got no type of act-right in him...MOVE ON.)

Hmmm...now Husband #2, now THAT sounds more like it! Let that marinate for a minute... I think I like it... I mean, husbands aren't quite as disposable as a boyfriend, they can't be thrown away just because the sex ain't poppin' anymore. Commitment, love, sex, confidante, loyalty, STD free zone, and variety! That's if everyone plays by the rules. Have sex with me and no one else. After all I am your wife! Would never happen, but a girl can fantasize...