First Date Sex

Is sex on the first date a case-by-case ruling? A definite no-no. Or hell yeah if the sparks are flying?

I would say a definite no-no because you don't know this person. There's the scariness of an STD, the possibility of an unwanted pregnancy and just too many unknowns to share your most prized possession -- your body -- with someone you know little about. I would say this with conviction and then I'd also tell you about my pink unicorn that grants me three wishes a day and sleeps under my bed at night to protect me from bad dreams. That ish is for the birds!

I think it's most definitely a case by case ruling. And hell... under the guise of "shoot, we're grown" or "Blame it on the alcohol" you have two great excuses to tell your girlfriend when you call from your cell phone as you do the walk of shame to your car the next morning. Generally, I don't think its a good idea, but ish happens and people have needs and urges that sometimes need to be acted on without thinking about the repercussions. But we do have to use protection every time, no exceptions.


Another factor that influences my case by case rule is the internet. Oftentimes couples/people meet online and speak for a while before actually meeting face to face. Their likes, dislikes, jokes, adventures are shared well before actually meeting in person. So this situation is sticky!


Then there's those times when you know immediately that this person is not boyfriend material, but you can't help but fantasize about him bending you over and......... You can sense his intentions with you are merely sexual as well. This is a mutually beneficial situation; he gets what he wants and you get a nice romp in the hay without feeling like you've been conned out of your panties. But then again...what if its good....what if its REAL good? Now you want more, he wants more, somebody wants more than just that one night? Now you got stars in your eyes wondering if maybe he could be boyfriend material.

Eh...don't do it, its messy. But if you must, just protect yourself!

But did you hear Trey Songz's "First Date Sex"?! He sings it to the tune of Jermih's "Birthday Sex". "Girl you gon' cry..ah ah ah... Tears from your eye..ah ah ah." Hmmm...I don't like the way!! Obvs if I were single, he'd definitely and for sure be my exception to the no sex on the first date rule... Who would be yours?