Twenty years old and under, I'm talking about you. Anyone older than 20, and you're still messy on the internet, oh well, you're grown. It's the younger ones, the ones that turn eighteen and can finally say "I'm grown." A) you're legal, not grown and B) if you have to say "I'm grown!" you're still a little girl.
Young ladies, you are setting yourselves up for failure! How can I talk? Because I was a messy, under-educated, over-opinionated, over-developed teen myself. (and I still have my messy moments) But despite my mother's advice, I had to learn everything my way. What the hell does she know? I thought. I'm not her and it's not the seventies anymore. Things are different now.
Same shit, different decade -- the game doesn't change, just the players. And now the players live out their lives publicly on social networking sites.
Get over yourself! You think you're looking so grown up or maybe you feel you're just "doing you." But you don't... and you're not. You're a walking, talking stereotype. Everything you do and say is so textbook. So predictable.
You get back what you put out there... The package that I see a majority of you youngins putting out there for the world to see via facebook and myspace is concerning. You post pictures on these websites dressed like video hoes, commenting on how fucked up you were that night. In those "getting to know you" surveys that go around you take every opportunity to exploit how much you love sex. Blech. We get it -- you're grown. (and sexy even) Then the facebook statuses...so much energy wasted on putting on blast your failed relationships with men. Your disappointment with men. Your anger about their cheating ways.
Take a step back and realize what it is that you're putting out there. Your facebook/myspace pages scream that your this overtly sexy person who's the life of the party that likes to get high and drunk. Translation: You are not girlfriend material. Ass. And this is not limited to just your online representation, these pics that were taken happened in real life too. Only God knows what happened that wasn't photographed. And then you wonder where the real "men" are and why you're always getting cheated on? A real man knows a real woman when he sees her. You, my dear are not that.
To be fair, (well, try to be), some people's online persona is just one facet of their personality. You have some straight A, highly intelligent, highly motivated, youngins that post these partying pics too. Fine, I get that. Bravo to you. (no sarcasm there) Just be careful because you're going to be judged right along with those truly messy girls just the same. First impressions stick.
You ever heard Mary J. Blige's song "Grown Woman?". Take a listen... Put it on your IPOD ASAP.
"I wear these Seven jeans but baby they don't wear me
I keep it covered up, uh Cause I'm a lady
I know how to show a little somethin, somethin
You can't see what's under there Cause I'm a grown woman
I'm so sexy...Remain a mystery...Cause everybody always want what they can't see
And what they can't have, and what they can't grab, and what they can't buy, and baby that's me!"
*****And while you're at it put Lyfe Jennings' "S.E.X" on your IPOD too. Thanks.
I haven't heard that Mary J. song but I'm feeling those lyrics, especially the last couple lines. Beyond that though, you're right about these young girls who present themselves so negatively on social networking sites.
ReplyDeleteAnd besides the fact that they're not sending the right messages if they expect to find good men, they need to be careful because colleges, employers and other important people are starting to check sites like Facebook to get more info on people before making decisions. And stuff like the pic you used for this blog (and other MUCH worse ones that i've seen) are not a good look.
well well well...
ReplyDeleteto be 100% i am guilty of some of these "faults" in young adults. i am guilty of being tagged in drinking pictures, smoking pictures, etc etc. but to be quite honest i have to appauld the young folks to have no shame in their game type of persona. i mean im not hiding the fact that i indulge in liquor, weed, and sex but those are not the only things im about. on my internet profiles i have pictures of my family and friends and poems reflecting the thoughts of my mind and my relationship with God. i take the quizzes and if my favorite smell is the smell of sex then damnit thats what im going to put. But in cases other than me i totally understand your point of view. some women just try to hard for attention because they are lacking it in other places such as the home. i have a great family, a some-what decent relationship with God, and i like to party every-now and then. is displaying who i truely am over the internet a crime? and to be honest i wouldnt even date someone who is merely judging me off of a internet social networking website, your a loser in my book if you do that. but in closing some of your points are valid but over the past couple of years i have toned my fbook/myspace down a it due to the fact that im growing up and yes, there is point when these females will just get over themselves as i did and become real women, not ashamed of the lifestyle they choose to live but are also aware that everyday someone is constantly judging you.
WELCOME TO THE "LOOK@ME" GENERATION.
-brownsugar
Haha I'm a guy and I have no clue as to what the hell I am doing here but I loved reading every second of this, that couldn't be put better than that.
ReplyDeleteI'm 19 years old so I'm surrounded by all of this "look at me" stuff and can see exactly what you mean. It's disgustingly unattractive and then that alone puts guys like me as the stereotype of 'loser' or 'unsocial' because we don't bother to even waste time with girls or guys like that. they actually seem very dull and boring for social butterfly's?
what's wrong with a guy or girl liking a quite night in drinking a cuppa coffee and taking advantage of the computer... for research and contact of friends who live in other country's. not up the road..
I guess that's what guys and girls get labelled as when they aren't taken in and manipulated by the government and the whole "media" craze... brainless zombies.
Anyway, Thanks on writing this blog, it's been a pleasure reading.
- A.L