So You Caught Your Partner Cheating...Part One

Never saw or heard of the show Jon and Kate plus 8 until Jon decided to step out on his wife (and mother of his eight kids) with some chick. Now they're plastered all over the web and I can't turn on the TV without hearing something about these two. So it got me to thinking...what would I do if I caught my husband out there with another woman? Would I leave him? The simple answer is NO. But that's based upon knowing very little about the situation. I'd want to ask him: Who is she? How long have you known her? Where'd you meet her? What does she look like? What's her name? Where does she live? How old is she? and on and on and on... But then again knowing all that would just add salt to the wounds. I went back and forth with myself weighing my husband's pros and cons and came up with a list of questions I'd ask myself (or him) if ever faced with infidelity.

#1 - GOTTA KNOW...who was it? Yes it will hurt but dammit I need to know was it just some random chick you met at the bar and you slipped up? Or was it your baby momma and every time you go get your son you two are jumping off? Is it a chick at work because if so you're going to need to put in your two weeks notice ASAP! I need to know in what context you know this person!

#2 - How will us separating effect me financially and physically? We have two kids. Will I be able to afford to live without his paycheck? If the answer is yes, then will I have any type of quality of life without him around to share my load?

#3 - Will this matter in twenty years? Yes the wounds from his cheating will hurt for a very long time and things may never get back to where they were before the betrayal, but twenty years from now will I look back and regret leaving him? If he had sex with my best friend, I probably won't regret it. But if it was a one time thing with a co-worker, after twenty years of making it up to me I think I'll be ok.

#4 - Did you use protection? Either way, I'm going to get checked out. But if the answer is no, they didn't use protection...he'd better duck fast. It makes my stomach hurt just thinking about it!

#5 - Does this one bad erase all the good he's done for me? Really? Or does this one bad just add to the list of bad ish he's done over the years and now I've had enough?

I would HATE to actually be forced with this situation though. Yes, I've been cheated on in past relationships but those were just boyfriends. I'ze married now... changes the game entirely. Hasty decisions just lead to emotionally charged changes that are so unnecessary. Why kick him out if a week later I'm just going to let him back in?

**Part Two will explore the options should you decide to stay. To include: cutting his dick off, not an option. Calling the other female, not an option...